During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, 'How do I know if I married the right person?' I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit) .

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression 'the labor of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.
It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make'love .

Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'… Not just a feeling.

Remember this always:

'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'

Operasi penertiban para perokok di Kawasan Dilarang Merokok (KDM) yang dilaksanakan petugas BPLHD (Badan Pengelola Lingkungan Hidup Daerah) di Terminal Blok M dan kawasan perkantoran Victoria sampai siang ini, Rabu (19/11), menahan sekitar 20 orang perokok.

Hal itu terbukti dalam razia perokok siang ini, Rabu (19/11). Dari 20 orang yang tertangkap karena merokok di Kawasan Dilarang Merokok di Terminal Blok M, rata-rata mengaku tidak mengetahui adanya perda larangan merokok tersebut.

Tak usah jauh-jauh jika ingin melihat longgarnya pengamanan dan penegakan ketentuan larangan merokok di Jakarta. Tengok saja Balai Kota DKI tempat Gubernur Fauzi Bowo berkantor dan Geduug DPRD tempat para wakil rakyat berkumpul. Perokok berkeliaran bebas di halaman, tempat parkir, kantin, kamar kecil, musala, bahkan di ruang rapat dan ruang kerja.

Tidak ada yang namanya pembatalan atau penundaan. Dari jadwal semula kami memang menetapkan uji simpatik mulai Rabu besok, bukan hari ini.

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Mark Zuckerberg

Pelanggan yang terhormat,
Kami beritahukan kepada seluruh pelanggan bahwa perusahaan kami, Apple Corporation yang berkantor pusat di Cupertino, California US membuka kantor pemasaran di Jakarta, Indonesia Produk yang kami pasarkan adalah Hand Phone tipe iPhone3G yang dilengkapi dengan teknologi GPS, Wi-Fi, bluetooth, video-audio, camera-photo, 16GB flash drive capacity, dll. Details produk kami silakan kunjungi: http://www.apple.com/iphone/specs.html. Untuk peluncuran perdana di Indonesia , kami akan memberikan secara gratis produk terbaru HP iPhone3G yang dilengkapi features seperti diatas. Dengan memberikan iPhone3G ini, kami berharap akan mendapatkan umpan balik yang berharga dari para pelanggan dan mendapatkan efek promosi berantai yang besar.

Yang harus anda lakukan adalah:
- Fowardkan pesan ini kepada 20 orang teman. Setelah 2 minggu waktu pengiriman, anda akan menerima sebuah iPhone3G. Sebelumnya kami akan mengontak anda untuk alamat detail pengiriman, atau
- Forwardkan pesan ini kepada 40 orang, anda akan menerima 2 produk: 1 bh iPhone3G + 1 bh iPod classic berkapasitas 120GB. Detail produk iPod classic kunjungi:http://www.apple.com/ipodclassic/
Harap dikirimkan sebuah copy / Cc email kepada:jkt.applecorp@asia.com agar kami mengetahui bahwa anda telah memforward pesan ini.